Stand small, and you’ll feel smaller, but expand a little (taller, more open) and you’ll feel more confident. Assuming a more confident pose will help actually change the way you feel. To feel confident, act as though you are. The connection between our mind and our body is a strong one, and what we do with our body, has the power to influence what we think and feel. Your mind is listening.Ĭharisma is a perfect blend of warmth and confidence. Vulnerability can have the effect of communicating confidence, establishing trust in the people you’re talking to, and can increase your likeability by giving permission for others to take a risk or to be less than perfect themselves. There are a few ways to do this – with praise, by being emotionally generous, or by telling a story which shows that you as less than perfect. There will be times when talking about your strengths will be exactly the way to go, but just make sure it’s for the right reasons. Be humble, funny, personal and a story that pulls tighter on a common between you both will be gold. Stories that are told from a position of self importance won’t fool anyone. It’s great to tell stories, as long as they’re told to connect, rather than to show people how clever, attractive or important you are.
Tell your stories – but for the right reason.They’re sought after, enjoyed, trusted, remembered and influential. Their magic lies, not so much in what they say or do, but how they make you feel – and anyone can do it. Sometimes they’ll shift your mood just by being with you for a while. They have you noticing, and when they speak, they have you listening, hearing and open to their influence.
You know the ones. They have a way of making you feel important, noticed, and they linger in your thoughts for a while after they’re gone – not (necessarily) in a romantic, falling in love kind of way, or an obsessive, ‘let’s see what our mutual friends, Google or Facebook, say about you’ kind of way, but in the kind of way that leaves you feeling bigger, more energised and with the impression that they’re someone pretty wonderful.
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